Eye Contact

 

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So I’ve been hitting a wall, when it comes to writing blog content lately. I start a few drafts and then I get uninspired to finish, and nothing is feeling good enough to post. I want to keep to a 2 times a week posting schedule, so I turned to my 400 Writing Prompts Book, for some help. I thought this one was pretty good.

 

Do you think the eyes are a window to a person’s soul?

What does eye contact mean to you? 

 

It’s funny I wrote a poem called Sunglasses back in 2013 when I started this blog, and it touches upon this topic a little. 

I do think in some way, the eyes are the windows to a person’s soul. I think they are going to tell you how a person feels. If they are scared, confused, loving, or whatever emotion they may be feeling, it’s all there. I notice that for me personally, I value eye contact. If someone isn’t looking at me while I’m talking I feel it’s like they aren’t listening to what I’m saying. Although that being said, I know I’m guilty of doing this myself at times. Life happens around us, and distractions are constant. However, I also notice that sometimes eye contact can be difficult for me. During a difficult conversation, during an awkward moment when you don’t know your place in a situation or what to say. Or simply, when your brain needs to find the right words. I find that I kind of look off trying to come up with a phrase. I also have issues with eye contact when it comes to men- usually men I feel don’t know me well. I feel like they are instantly judging me. Sometimes, I feel this way while talking to women too, but it’s not that often. I believe in women’s empowerment. I believe in feminism and supporting each other. And I feel like women just get where each other are coming from. We all face those same weird life circumstances. We are sisters. It’s a safe space. But with men, especially with how they think differently they don’t always understand where we’re coming from. I often worry what they think about me. Are they judging me, judging how I look,  or what I’m doing. But that’s a whole other conversation that includes feelings of  fear, inferiority, nerves, anxiety, insecurity, feminism, and wanting to find a man that actually wants to listen to what I have to say. I feel like if I don’t look directly at them, then they don’t get to see those inner thoughts floating around in my massively chaotic mind. They just will think, I’m unphased./busy or even worse, they’ll think I’m being rude. But that’s ok, because it’s better than the truth. Either way it’s not super great, but I find myself doing it all. the. time. It’s unfortunate because I know that it can come off as merely uninterested and that kind of sucks. #PROBABLYWHYIMSINGLE HAHAHA. Avoiding male eye contact, (referring to male strangers/acquaintances not men I actually know or am related to) is something I’ve always done. I don’t know. I have to be aware of that, and check it. But I guess in some way, I’m still that shy girl that keeps to herself or her close inner circle. I’ve conquered many awkward moments in my life and I’m really good at filling awkward silence, and conversation. But sometimes I just feel like with certain people, I’m not myself. Or if I am myself, it doesn’t match up with them.  Well there you go, that’s some real deal truth for you. However, sometimes eyes are just eyes. And we don’t have to over think every glance or conversation. Do you know how many times I’ve dazed off and then realized the person across from me probably thought I was starring them down. Resting bitch eyes, are a thing too, I guess. So you never really know what someone is really thinking while they are looking/not looking at you. So what’s your take…

 

How do you feel about eye contact?

Do you find it easy as pie or do you view it as something

deeper like a window leading to your soul?

-<3-

 

Summer 2016 Favorites

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Accessories:

Simple Jewelrythin rings, thin necklace.

*In this heat, too much chunky jewelry is too much to handle. I’ve sort of found my everyday simplicity and I’ve really liked wearing it.

Tan Strapped Sandals

*I practically wear these things every day! They are so comfortable and the color goes with everything. And the marshmallow white bottom gives me 90’s fashion vibes.

Mirrored Sunglasses

*I love a good funky colored shade any day, but when I came across the clear frame and the mirrored lens I fell in love with the sleekness of them. These really do go with everything and they are understated which seems to be my summer trend this year.

Beauty:

Tess Christine inspired makeup

*Tess Christine is one of my favorite YouTubers. And I love her style so much. This look has inspired my recent everyday makeup. With her tips, I’ve crafted a simple, bronzed, nude look that I really love.

REVLON Ultra HD Matte Lip color

*This color is the perfect blush nude, and I love the matte texture. It wears pretty long too. And I got it on sale in CVS for $6.99…BONUS!

Messy Bun Hairstyles

*I cut my hair pretty short earlier in the Summer, so I’ve been trying new hairstyles that will accommodate a shorter do. I’ve utilized the mini pigtail buns often throughout this Summer. It’s a bit funky at first but I’ve grown to like it and it’s pretty quick to style. Which is also a huge plus!

Sea Island Cotton Body Spray -Bath & Body works

*This has been my favorite body spray for quite a few years, but I haven’t been using it for quite a few months. I finished it and then had to resort to another scent, because I just hadn’t been to a mall to pick up a new bottle. I’m very picky when it comes to scents. If it’s too strong it will give me a headache or bring on a slight anxiety. For that reason I don’t wear perfume- just body spray. But recently I made the mall trip and I caught a 3 bottle sale. It’s such a beautiful linen, light, airy, slightly floral, clean, crisp scent. I adore it. 

Tips to Beat the Heat:

Travel water bottle

*This one is so cute holds a really good amount of water. And it as a straw spout which I prefer.

Portable Fan Necklace

*This has been a lifesaver this summer, during these heat waves. It hangs on my neck and blows air up at me. Hands free, does the trick!

Spray Bottle

*I’ve seen so many of those hydrating sprays, but they are always so expensive, so instead I just put some water into a spray bottle and I carry it in my purse or work bag and if I feel like I need to cool down a bot, I’ll spritz my wrists or my neck/chest, and face. You can also bop this into the freezer to chill it a bit.

Entertainment:

TV Show-

American Gothic

*This is a 13 part murder mystery on CBS and it has got me hooked. And it doesn’t hurt that my girl Bethany Joy Lenz has just gotten on board for a few episodes. Check it out…you won’t regret it! SO GOOD!

Song-

“Can’t Stop The Feeling” – Justin Timberlake

“Make Me” – Britney Spears

*Pop royalty is back! Enough said. These two songs have been my summer anthems.

Other:

Sunflowers

*Sunflowers are my favorite flower and this Summer I have seen so many beautiful ones.

Iced hot chocolate

*This started with the dunkin donuts frozen hot chocolate, but then I’ve ordered iced hot chocolate in a restaurant and I fell in love with it. So naturally I started making it at home. I basically just make a cup on instant hot cocoa (with milk-not water) microwave the cup for just a bit to allow easier to mix and then pour over ice, chill in freezer and viola! SO delicious.

 

What are some of your summer favorites & tricks and tips to beat the heat?

Let me know in the comments below!

-<3-

 

Tori Kelly- Style Files

Tori Kelly is one to watch. She has a voice to be reckoned with. Plays the guitar and the drums. Has a damn cool laid back style with funky twists and spins and overall gives off really good cool chill vibes. AND HER HAIR IS EPIC!

I’m going to showcase some key things I’ve noticed in her style choices.

Maybe it will help create some fun fashion inspiration for my laid back girls out there.

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The sneaker trend.

Tori has this cool way of rocking a funky sneaker with a dressier outfit. Somehow it works.

Below she is pictured wearing them with a dress, a romper, shorts, and a pants outfit. And although it may be considered a slightly off kilter concept, she makes it work. I’m not much of a sneaker girl and I don’t know if I would be able to pull of this trend, but I’d definitely give it a try!

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Colored shades.

Below you will see Tori rocking the same pair of green sunglasses. I am obsessed with these. They are such a funky color and reflective and just bad ass. They add a pop of color to any outfit and work really well with her big blonde curls.

Flannels.

Below you will find Tori incorporating flannels into her outfits, whether she is the rocking them around her waist to add more dimension- giving it that 90’s grunge vibe- or she’s rocking a full skirt piece, Tori makes it all work-effortlessly. Besides, you can always throw the flannel on if you are cold which would then in turn switch the outfit up a bit-giving it a cozy, cabin in the woods vibe. Where’s my crackling fireplace and my glass of wine? I’m ready. 

The all black theme.

Tori wears a lot of black, all black outfits often including a leather jacket to be more precise. She even likes to paint her nails black as well. It gives off an edgy, rockerish vibe. And let’s be honest, you end up looking sleek as hell. What I love so much about the following three all black outfits, is Tori’s choice to accent the shoe with a shiny texture and vibrant sparkly color. We see gold wedge sneakers in the first photo (WHICH I ADORE), electric turquoise heels in the second photo and sparkly silver platform sneakers in the third photo. These accents are what makes Tori, Tori.

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Thin rings on three consecutive fingers.

I see a lot of people wear simple jewelry additions like this. I adore this trend. So is there a name for these rings, and where can I get them?

The basic Tori samples.

Leather jackets aside, Tori often rotates denim pieces, plain tees, blazers, and booties.

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Classing things up.

Even though often opting for a laid back, comfortable fashion style, Tori Kelly is no stranger to putting together a kick ass red carpet ready wardrobe. Below you will see how she isn’t afraid to go bold, bright, adding a little sparkle and shimmer. The first look plays with color, the second is head to toe sequins and sparkle, rocking the heels too. The last photo is my favorite look. I love everything about it, the studded booties, the feather dress, the leather jacket – which makes for a really interesting but beautiful texture contrast. And these pieces are all slightly different shades of gray/black as well, which compliment nicely.

 

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All of these key ideas give Tori her own style. And it looks comfortable too. I’m all about that life. Because sometimes I can’t fashion, I’m too tired and now that summer is here, I have no patience. But it’s fun to explore the idea that laid back basic pieces can be made into fashion forward looks and still remain chill and comfy. Tori Kelly is quite the talent. So I leave you with these killer performances as you start to gain some outfit inspiration from her stellar self. Let me know in the comments below if I missed any Tori Styles Tips!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e2p0wMy182w

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BsEIHVo5XGo

 

*I do not take credit for any images used.*

-<3-