International Women’s Day- March 8th

Hi friends! 

In case you haven’t noticed I changed my posting schedule from Mondays & Thursdays to just simply twice a week. It’s just getting so hard sticking to specific days, but I do usually try to get up two posts within the week, regardless of the days I do so. But this week was a bust, but I finally have some time to sit down today and so I figured you know what, I’ll give you the two posts today. Why not? 

I had wanted to post this on Friday in honor of the special day, but time got away from me this week. However, I could not let it go unrecognized on this platform. 

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This past Friday I rocked my purple in honor of #InternationalWomensDay. Purple signifies justice and dignity and is the color of IWD. I do work in a school setting and I co-teach an activity, where we try to form lessons and projects around inspiring young girls (& boys) to help each other go after their dreams and make positive change around them. In order to celebrate we watched “Brave” which is a great movie about a young female lead character who fights to create her own fate even though she is a princess and her parents say she needs to marry a man for a bright future. She challenges that and creates change. Add in some snacks and a bit of IWD facts and it was a ladies party! Keep fighting the fight ladies, do your thang! Thank you to all the powerful, women in my life who inspire me always, and those who have come before us and paved the way. Feminism is not a new term, it’s not a fad, and it is not anti men. It’s just believing in equality between men and women. And it’s a concept that’s been around for years. We as women need to carry it along generation, through generation. “Strong women. May we know them. May we be them. May we raise them.” Happy “Belated” International Women’s Day! ✌💪🥂💜

International Women’s Day (March 8th) is a global day celebrating the social, economic, cultural and political achievements of women. The day also marks a call to action for accelerating gender parity. International Women’s Day is all about unity, celebration, reflection, advocacy and action – whatever that looks like globally at a local level. But one thing is for sure, International Women’s Day has been occurring for well over a century – and continues to grow from strength to strength. – official IWD site

 

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[2012] PG Drama/Fantasy 1 hr. 33 min.

 

Synopsis: 

Merida (Kelly Macdonald), the impetuous but courageous daughter of Scottish King Fergus (Billy Connolly) and Queen Elinor (Emma Thompson), is a skilled archer who wants to carve out her own path in life. Her defiance of an age-old tradition angers the Highland lords and leads to chaos in the kingdom. Merida seeks help from an eccentric witch (Julie Walters), who grants her an ill-fated wish. Now, Merida must discover the true meaning of courage and undo a beastly curse before it’s too late.- Via Google/Wiki

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I do think this film was a great story to show on such a day, and it was our little way of celebrating. It held such a strong message, that we as women have the power to pave our own way and that it’s okay to question the hierarchy/history. There are so many other things you can do to celebrate and not just on the one day. I know we have our projects, we are working towards- to create and donate care packages to local female shelters. It is something we are just working and building toward for future lessons. After all, IWD includes the idea to think Globally, act locally. Make the change wherever you are. It all matters! For more ideas and information about IWD…

Visit-  https://www.internationalwomensday.com/

How did you celebrate International Women’s Day? 

 

* I do not take credit for the Brave image or trailer used.*

 

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A Love Poem from the Faceless Woman to the Faceless Man

 

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I often wonder if you’re ever thinking about me.

Do you wonder what color my eyes are?

If I’m close to my family?

How I take my coffee?

If I drink coffee at all?

I wonder if you spend your days looking, searching, waiting, praying for us to meet.

For me to trust you with all my dreams.

To have someone always on your side to battle your doubts.

To cuddle on the couch with a glass of beer or wine.

Do you get glimpses of our future?

How many kids we have?

If we live in a big house?

City or country?

Writing our love story in your mind.

Proposal story and our wedding day.

Sometimes it’s so much to bare, isn’t it?

This unknown person you promise to spend your life with.

“I love you and I haven’t even met you yet.”

Have you ever thought that?

So much love to give.

We worry.

Time lines ahead of us.

Clocks ticking.

Loudly at times.

Birthdays coming in like a Warning Sign.

Friends?

Married.

Kids.

And you feel like your failing. 

Sometimes that “happy ending” feels so far away.

Like it’ll never happen.

And in that moment, I hope you feel me right there next to you.

Even if I’m miles and miles away,

or not far at all.

Either way, two souls.

Time will come.

And we’ll one day call each other home. 

See you soon, love.

From the Faceless Woman, to the Faceless Man.

 

 

*I do not take credit for the image used.* 

 

Fun Fact: Just as I finished writing this poem, Justin Timberlake’s song “Soulmate” came on my “Magic” titled Spotify playlist. Hmmm? Universe, I see you. 😉 

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Gentleman

Turning to the prompts again…because sometimes you need a little inspiration…

Describe what the term “gentleman” means to you. 

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I think a Gentleman is a man who does more than just holds open your door for you, or who gives you his jacket when your cold. It’s more than flowers and jewelry. It’s remembering your anniversary. It’s planning date nights. A gentleman is someone who listens to you, consoles you, supports you, lifts you up when your down. He also understands that you are your own person, a person who can take care of herself, but who still wants to take care of you from time to time because he loves you.

Women are strong and independent. But that doesn’t mean men can’t help them. I know I do that a lot. I’m like no I got it. I have a difficult time asking for help. I like to know that I can do things on my own. I like to know that I can take care of myself. So I guess in my opinion, a Gentleman is someone who understands that but never gives up on being there for his significant other, treating her with respect, and treasuring her. Wanting to spend his time with her, doing things she likes to do with her even if he’s not a super fan of it. And I think in return, a woman can do the same for a man.

In a world where millennials seem to have been given this horrid name, I do still believe there are some men out there who are true gentleman. And it extends beyond just his romantic relationship. He is loyal, honorable, he is kind, caring, he is respectful of human kind as a whole. 

No one is perfect. But trying your best to be the best version of yourself, never goes out of style. 

This “prompt”-ed…this… 😉 

 

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*I do not take credit for the image/music/video used.*

My No Make-up Routine

There are some days (usually on the weekends) when I will go makeup free. I used to never wear makeup to school all the way up until college. Here and there maybe lip-gloss and eyeshadow, but rarely on an everyday basis. If I had a party or something, that was a different story. 

But now that I am working everyday I just feel I need to do a little something everyday. So I like to give my face a break on the weekends. If I don’t have to be anywhere special I will go all natural the whole weekend.

I can’t say that I always feel super confident when doing so. I used to be fine without wearing makeup, because I was so used to it. But now I’m used to having some makeup on during the week, so when I don’t I feel like my insecurities can arise. #BAGSUNDERMYEYES

However, I think it’s important to give your face a break. And I have actually gotten some compliments when using this little routine.  There was actually one day I did these few small steps. I threw my hair up in a messy bun and some hoop earrings on, and went to my aunt’s to have dinner and my sister in law was like “Do you have any makeup on today?” and I was like “No. none. Actually like zero.” And she just looked at me with a face and was like “Ugh, I hate you. I’m looking at you saying, this girl looks so pretty today.” Lol.

That was such a crazy sweet compliment that it made me feel really great. I was feeling insecure that day and I was just like cool, I can do this no make up thing. I do it no matter what, because I think it’s super important for allow your face to breathe, but now I can have a little more confidence going makeup free.

So I thought I’d share what I do on the days I decide not to wear any makeup. Like zero makeup.

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STEP 1:

First, I take my morning shower and I wash my face with a facial cleanser. I usually use Simple products, but then I switched to Cetaphil, and now I’m currently using Neutrogena.

Quite honestly, I think I’m going to be switching back to Simple or Cetaphil. I don’t care for the smell of the Neutrogena face wash. I really liked the Cetaphil one the best out of the brands I’ve tried so far.

STEP 2:

After I get dressed I do my skin routine- splash some cold water on my face. I don’t know why I do this. I know I just showered, but for some reason it’s just like a boost. And I feel like it preps my face for my face lotion.

STEP 3:

After I dry my face, I apply my Simple Moisturizer, I’ve been using this for a while and I like it. Accept I recently bought the wrong one by accident. So currently I am using the Rich Moisturizer. But I like the Light Moisturizer with SPF in it. It’s light texture, not greasy, and smells good! I think I’ll be switching back to the light. (it’s the one with the yellow sign on the front.)

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*This is also the time when I brush my teeth, clean my ears and blow my nose and all that jazz. You know usual human things.

STEP 4:

Apply chapstick or lip balm. I use my holy grail- the old school blue tub Blistex.

STEP 5:

Apply a little bit of Vaseline to my eyelids. I can’t remember where I saw this. I feel like it was in a beauty guru’s no make up routine. I just think it gives you a little natural shine.

STEP 6:

This next step is a bit weird and unconventional, lol. But I usually pinch my cheeks a bit just to get some color. HAHA.

STEP 7:

I curl my eyelashes with my Revlon eyelash curler, and brush my eyebrows in place with my elf eyebrow brush.

STEP 8: (OPTIONAL)

Rock the messy top knot or side bun and add some statement earrings for flare if your looking to spice things up.

 

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This is a selfie I took after doing this routine.

 

And there you have it. That’s about it!

I don’t always do this on my no makeup days. If I’m just home, I won’t do anything! If I have to go out and don’t want to wear makeup then doing these small little things can make me feel a little more confident. What do you do on your no makeup days?

 

*Most images are my own.*

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Her name is Lulu

Lulu walks along the city street. Her iPod in her ears; playing one of her favorite songs…lulu

Woman monster, woman child,
Woman hero, woman wild
Woman whisper, woman scream
Woman listen, woman free

Woman Mary, Jezebel
Woman heaven, woman hell
Woman teacher, womankind
Woman nature, woman rise

I am the Universe wrapped in skin

A few minutes in and she came to the realization that she didn’t really have a destination. She just needed to walk. She needed to breathe fresh air into her lungs. To feel connected to the world in some sort of strange way. She needed to find clarity. Purpose. Inspiration. Lulu didn’t quite know how to feel about her recent move to New York. She was unsure she’d ever fit in. But maybe that was the point. Always feeling like she was two steps behind everyone else…late to the game, is a phrase she knew well.

She needed to feel like she was finding a path for herself, or creating one. She needed to feel like she wasn’t a child, that she was growing and maturing. That she was going somewhere, that she was making her future happen, and not just waiting on it. Lulu needed to know that she could stand on her own, take care of herself. To begin her quest from girl to woman.

But she also needed to learn the difference between becoming independent, and pushing people away. Isolation is no way to live. There had to be a balance. Lulu needed to find it.

Isn’t that how it goes?  Lulu ponders. Small town girl makes a splash in the big city? A fish out of water. It’s a scary thing uprooting your whole life, for a chance at something that may or may not ever happen. Lulu wanted to be a writer. To expand the minds of many. To expand their souls, and give them an escape from ordinary life even just for a minute.

Lulu’s goal was to make people feel like they aren’t alone. Like they have a friend in her. Someone who gets it. Who gets them. She wanted to make them feel like she saw them, she wanted to make them feel seen and understood. Lulu wasn’t used to scandalous behavior. Sure she wrote about it in her stories of young adults trying to find themselves, making mistakes along the way. But it was all based on imagination, it was nothing she herself had ever experienced. Write what you know, huh? Lulu did the opposite. She wrote what she wanted to know, what she wanted to explore and learn about. She wrote from imagination. The pinnacle key of creativity. Some would even go as far as to call her innocent, or a prude, or simply too naïve for her own good. But Lulu knew better. Her eyes were open. And she could see the world for all that it is. A mixture of happiness and sadness. A blur of blacks and whites. Fading. Gray areas. Colors like canary yellow and magenta. Lulu could see that life can be filled with depression and anxiety and then flip a switch and be blessed with joy and laughter. It was in these switches, that she would put pen to paper and try to make sense of it all. The pen is mightier.

So fellow writers. Who is Lulu? A small town girl moving to the big city? A fish out of water? A writer with a dream? A lost soul searching for her purpose? Is Lulu just like you? Just like me? Lulu is you. Lulu is me. Lulu is every twenty something struggling writer, every girl turning into a woman, Lulu is just trying to find who she is, and what her place in the world is, but there’s a few things to keep in mind along the way…

*LULU*

Learn

Universally

Love

Uniquely

LISTEN to Lulu’s quest to womanhood.

* I do not take credit for the images used in my edit.*

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“No…how bout you make ME a plate!” – She said

Girl Power!

Feminism!

And anything else that makes women believe in the brilliance of their minds & bodies.

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It’s no secret to those who have kept up with this blog or to those who know me personally that I am someone who not only believes in feminism, but also respects it. I think people get the wrong idea when, someone says I’m a feminist. They think right away “oh god, here we go, here comes the rant. She hates men.” And the truth is, that’s just ignorant thinking. Feminist simply believe they are to be treated equally. To be treated as a human being. I can’t tell you how many times I have seen men (both men I know personally and men I don’t know) ask their wives or girlfriends to make their plate of food for them or get them a drink, etc. And that’s all well and good if the woman chooses to do that for her husband or boyfriend, by all means that’s her choice. And doing it doesn’t make you any less of a woman. But it should be appreciated and not just expected of her. What gets me the most, is what is he doing at that moment that is so catastrophically time consuming, that he can’t get his food himself. And it’s usually nothing. He just expects to have her do it for him, because he simply doesn’t want to do it himself. I’m sorry but he has legs and hands and can do it himself. #SorryNotSorry. I often joke that my future boyfriend is in for a rude awakening, because I don’t put up with that crap! It may sound crazy to men when I say this, but that little act can feel demeaning to a woman; it’s as if you think that’s her duty, or her place in life. And I swear if someone says a woman’s place is in the kitchen….oh you will feel my wrath. I understand in the older days that’s how things were. And I’m sure as a wife you want to take care of your husband and cook for him, especially if he’s been working all day. But guess what there are working women out there in the world too. And they still work full days and come home (most likely to a house full of kids) and also still cook dinner and clean and keep a houseful of people in tact. So I ask you men out there, why haven’t YOU made your wife a plate, or cooked dinner for her. Let’s be clear I realize their ARE men out there who do, and I don’t want this to be taken out of context and to be thought of as me bashing men. That’s not what this is. But this is something I’ve noticed and it’s something I felt I wanted to address. And for the men that do reciprocate the gesture. I truly respect and admire that. Your mothers would be proud! Because YOU get it. YOU realize that times have changed, and will continue to change. Hey who knows maybe men will be the ones having the babies in the *Utopia* future. haha I vote all women start asking men to make their plates and see how they like it. Who’s with me? 😉

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So now I bring you just a little playlist to get you happy and dancing.

Enjoy Ladies, you deserve it.

Order In Tonight, Kick Your Feet Up, Let Dad “Watch” The Kids [isn’t that a funny thing to say, we always say it but in reality are they not HIS kids too! Give me a break, it ain’t babysitting if they’re YOUR kids too Homie, haha.] Pour Yourself A Glass Of Wine, and Feel The Good Vibes Of The Music.

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Because you are a woman and should be damn proud of it!

*Women’s Empowerment Playlist* (PART 1)

20 Songs.* By Women.* For Women.* About Women.* To Inspire Women.

“I Really Don’t Care”– Demi Lovato

“Can’t Hold Us Down”– Christina Aguilera

“Girls Just Wanna Have Fun”– Cyndi Lauper

“Wanna Be”– The Spice Girls

“Mr. Know It All”– Kelly Clarkson

“Respect”– Aretha Franklin *THE ULTIMATE!*

“Halo”– Bethany Joy Lenz (as Haley James Scott; One Tree Hill)

“Boss”– 5th Harmony

“No Scrubs”– TLC

“Problem”– Ariana Grande

“I’m Every Woman” – Whitney Houston

“I Will Survive”– Gloria Gaynor

“Set Fire To The Rain”– Adele

“Skin”– Alexz Johnson (as Jude Harrison; Instant Star)

“I’m Not A Girl, Not Yet A Woman”– Britney Spears

“Hips Don’t Lie”– Shakira

“Run The World (Girls)”– Beyonce

“Man I Feel Like A Woman”– Shania Twain

“You Oughta Know”– Alanis Morrisette

“So What”– Pink

When in doubt. Dance it out.

Enjoy!

*Notice it says (Part 1) because there’s a LOT more where this came from.*

Stay Tuned for more fun songs coming your way…soon!

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